So I’m 29. It’s official. And it’s been official for 3 months. Yes, that's exactly how long it’s taken me to put this list of 29 things I would like to do in my last year of my 20s, and ironically a quarter of it is over.
Anyone who properly knows me, knows a few things about me:
1) I love DM drogerie market (something like a European Wholefood.)
2) I’m the biggest dog stalker
3) I’m constantly judging people according to their age.
I used to think about people who say, “Age is just a number", how pathetic or old they have to be in order saying this. Now that I’m 29, I understand what they meant. I don’t feel older than before. In fact, I still feel the same age as when I was 26 or 27.
Not only has my point-of-view on the topic of age changed, but I even love myself more with every single day that I spend on this planet. And that feels great.
But still - I wouldn’t be true to myself if I hadn’t planned some extraordinary endeavors for this last year of my 20s.
I put together three main things I would like to change/ learn about them/ or gain in this final year and 26 additional points of focus. Following this list is my recipe for kicking-off my 30s in the most fabulous way!
1. Loving myself fully. I should love every flaw, every quirk; everything that makes me me. I need to embrace myself completely. To love myself fully means also getting rid of the old habits that are limiting me. For example, being judgmental about my age or constantly complaining about my skin or body. I don’t know about you, but I’ve spent my entire 20s disliking my body in so many ways. No boobs, no ass, too big of an ass, hating my belly, my nose, my hair… essentially disliking myself. I don’t want to be a 30-year-old with self-esteem issues. I would definitely like to leave this way of thinking behind me. I want to embrace self-love and self-acceptance and have a personal trainer. :D I’ve started working out 5 times a week and think it will be quite ironic when I have a better body in my 30s than I ever did when I was younger. For my skin, I’m trying out different solutions. Right now, I’m using a treatment at the TCM Clinic in Prague. TCM is a traditional Chinese medicine center and I’m very curious if this treatment will have positive results.
2. Secondly, becoming fluent in English and German. I think when it comes to my insecurities, half of them come from my inability to speak English and German on a native level. Being a German citizen with weak grammar skills makes me feel like an outcast every time I visit Berlin. Making multiple mistakes when writing or texting with my friends, drives me crazy. Not being fluent in English or German used to be an excuse for me for why I can’t do this or that. And I’m tired of giving myself that excuse.
3. Thirdly, my economic stability. I’m not afraid to work hard. In fact, I love it. Until I burn out. And that’s how the vicious cycle goes on and on. Maybe this year I’ll find a more balanced lifestyle. Maybe I will see my free time as valuable as my work time and treat both equally. Economic stability means savings (finally!) and the freedom to move to any country in this world when time is right.
4. Put myself first. Always.
5. Surround myself with inspirational people.
6. Either finish my side projects or to put them on a higher level. Anything in between is a waste of time.
7. Have an active blog. Write and share my thoughts, however silly they might be.
8. Move to another country before getting comfortable.
9. Learn to say NO sometimes, to anybody and don’t feel guilty about it.
10. Don’t judge people according to their age and see everybody as equal.
11. Celebrate Christmas with my mum, somewhere on the beach again.
12. Learn to talk to my body and myself in a nice way.
13. Realize that time is the most precious thing and stop wasting it on any anything / anybody that doesn’t add value or happiness to my life.
14. Saying more to my friends than that I love them and realize who are my true friends. The more the better might be not accurate.
15. Stop comparing myself to the others. I’ve realized I have a habit of putting people on pedestals so I can admire them. Which is very self-destructive.
16. Being alone and staying single. Enjoying solitude as long as it makes me happy.
17. Learn how to delegate work on a project.
18. Be more environmentally active. Have you ever heard about Parley?
19. Find time for hobbies and activities I’ve always wanted to do, like drawing and attending acting school again.
20. Be more spontaneous. Cause I love planning too much. (See I even have to plan to be spontaneous. LOL!)
21. Have one work-free day. Since work is fun (for me) and fun is work, I tend to overdone it and that’s not very much fun at all.
22. Stop taking things personally. As I have learned recently learned, nobody is in charge of your life and it’s as much as it is nobody’s else’s fault if your life doesn’t look the way as you want it to. Not your ex- boyfriend’s, not your mum’s , not your family, not your current your recent bf, and not or your friends.
23. Be more honest with myself and with others.
24. Take more trips with girlfriends. Shout out to Odivi and surf camp this Fall, Milano next Spring and Architecture Bienalle with Kura Beznohy, Primavera Sounds, Paris Fashion Week, or Tbilisi Fashion Week with other dear friends.
25. Spend more time with my German family.
26. Re-discover Berlin.
27. Grow out my natural brown hair for the first time in 15 years (which will be a big surprise for everybody who thought I’m a natural red-head or blonde… :D)
28. Try at least one new thing that goes deeply against my old-fashioned ways
29. Gain some extra skills like: massage, pole dancing, driving a car properly, surfboarding ... so my 30s can be even more adventurous.
photos: Létoslav Chromek